Confidence : This is one of the words you hear when people talk about what they find attractive in other people.
But confidence is common.
What is truly effective is delusional self-confidence .That is, you are confident in yourself no matter what other people think of you.
You know what you want in life. You are content happy even, about where you are in life where you are in life and where you are going.
Some people might think your self-confidence is misplaced.
Let them think what they like. That’s why I call this kind of confidence "delusional".
From the outside, it may look like you have no reason to be confident in yourself. But that doesn’t affect you. You know who you are
Delusional self-confidence is an essential characteristic of almost every person who is naturally attractive to the opposite gender.
This is true for both men and women
But here Ill focus how this applies to women.
You don’t have to be born with this feelings. You also don’t have to be rich, beautiful ,or exceptionally smart to be self-confident.
I can be cultivated and mastered.
Being self-confident is an attitude.
You can see it in the way you walk ( gracefully ,with your back straight and you chin up ), pause between sentences ( because people listen to you so you don’t have to feel like to you need to cram all the words together nervously), the way you enter a room (elegantly , with-out door slamming behind you), and the way you smile.
You haven’t a hint of desperation or neediness about you.
You are not anxious or nervous around men.
You don’t settle.
You don’t actively chase anyone.
You don’t go to pieces when a relationship doesn’t work out.
Rather, you have a mentality of abundance.
If not that man, then another even better man will come along. You are an optimist.
You are confident in yourself.
Of course , if you don’t feel this way now, you won’t suddenly feel this way today.
This how you act until you really do feel this way. Give it time. This feeling will come.

FROM:
DAVID TIAN. (29 March 2009). THE NEW PAPER ON SUNDAY. NEW PAPER: SPH.